On consent.
"The breeze at dawn has secrets to tell you.
Don't go back to sleep.
You must ask for what you really want.
Don't go back to sleep."
Consent is what I work from. In coaching, in breathwork, in private sessions, in workshops. In every conversation I am part of. It applies to me as much as to anyone I work with.
Consent is not a formality.
It is not a checkbox before we begin. Not a phrase we get out of the way. It is the ground we stand on for everything that follows, and it is checked again, and again, as we go.
A true Yes needs three things.
Enough information to know what you are saying yes to. Enough time to feel whether the yes is yours. Enough freedom to change your mind, at any moment, without having to defend it.
No is a complete sentence.
A no doesn't owe an explanation. A no doesn't need to be softened to be heard. If a no costs something to say, then the room is not yet safe enough for the yes to be real.
